Venus in Aries is in a sexy sextile with Pluto in Aquarius…and by May 25th it will be in a trine in Gemini. As I am looking at the transits of the next few months with an ephemeris (very very sexy), I can’t help but wonder… are a whole bunch of us going to fucking lose it? And by lose it I mean be seduced by darkness.
Ooooh. Let’s explore.
For a brief period in my life, I was getting into Shibari. I had always been a sexual & sensual girl, but I never really explored the world of kink. And as an ex-friend (good grief) was diving into her “non-monogamous-let’s-explore-everything” lifestyle, I was a willing guinea pig to her rope-tying apprenticeship. Eager was I to attend the class and be practiced on, my eyes open with an almost morbid curiosity to what lies beyond what we typically know as touch. Curiosity to witness led to curiosity to learn, and a few simple knots later, I was transfixed over a sensation I hadn’t felt before.
Let me tell you, the art of rope bondage is a very, very sensual thing. Not for everybody, but god damn.
note: to clarify before anyone else asks as I’d been asked this before: was I attracted to my female friend? nerp. i’m open, but I know who and what I love and am attracted to. now back to shibari.
Watching the instructor tie a woman for class purposes is one thing, but being tied yourself is another. As I felt the rope burn through my sensitive skin – then abruptly pulled tight into a half knot – I was in. A sleepy relaxed euphoric sway took over my body as my friend acting as the “rigger” (the one handling the rope, and I, the “bunny”) did an eccentric dance of push, pull, embrace, touch, hold, caress… controlling my movements while I was completely caged in, unable to break free.
But at that kind of state, who the hell wants to break free? It felt amazing. Very similar to meditation, which says a lot about the practice.
It takes a lot of trust to be in a situation like that.
For the most part, we know what sex is. We know the physical gymnastics of it, the ins and outs, the “step by step process”, the positions, the mechanics…yawn…you get my point. But most of us don’t know our kinks. Most of us don’t know our darkest, deepest desires because we don’t allow ourselves to. Because we were told not to. It’s dirrrty.
Ahem. Okay, here comes story-telling time…
So there I was, getting it on, when out of completely nowhere, I looked down at my partner and something changed. There was this unspoken power growing rapidly in my right hand that needed to be unleashed, and I felt compelled to slap the living daylights out of him.
And so I did. I slapped him.
News of my newly acquired skill (???) managed to somehow reach the grapevine (what???) and it wasn’t long before a male friend went up to me and asked to be slapped (what???) in full view of everyone. In the office.
(what???)
And so I did. I slapped him. (what???)
Never mind the clear lack of work discipline and guidelines of the early 2000s, and let’s go back to this man who instinctively pulled me to his chest with swift fervor in response to said slap. In the office. In front of everyone. He also knew my boyfriend. Who was also the manager.
Anyway, point is I was excited to uncover more about this side of myself but unfortunately, that isn’t how the story goes. Le boifriend wanted to keep things as they were, which meant no more slapping and beyond adventures for everyone.
Be it a position of dominance or submission, there is something dangerous that lies inside many of us that encapsulates the Venus-Pluto dynamic we see ourselves in this April and May which can be sexy and formidable. This is a recipe for disaster, and I am here for it.
I have a Venus-Pluto square in my chart, and this makes me like my men slightly obnoxious and highly intelligent. Even when my trauma begs me to search for safety, I cannot fathom a man who isn’t off the cuff and bossy. I’ve always been drawn to the allure of something foggy, knowing it’s possibly the biggest red flag in the world – but at the same time, I’m a big girl.
All this coming out of the mouth of a healer who normally tells you to run. Hey, I can preach it but it doesn’t mean I take it.
But I was never an addict.
In my early 20s, I was surrounded by drugs and saw how the people closest to me were losing grip of their realities. Their behavior, and eventual downfall, made me despise anything that reduced me to bones and smoke. And while I had my fair share of this and that, I was never the type to lose control.
The fear of losing myself to anything destructive was so repelling I was never tempted, and the last thing I would want is to die alone in my panties on the floor with a needle up my arm.
But love? Sign me up.
Does anyone remember the Great Twilight Epidemic of 2008? No? Good for you. While it was just ghastly, I must admit the first movie was fun to watch – if you’re a 12 year old girl trapped in a woman’s body.
Women worldwide wanted their own version of Edward – fully aware he was a creep and very much dead. I was never Team Edward or whats-his-face…what’s the wolf’s name…Jacob. I was always a Spike girl and will die a Spike girl.
You see, I wasn’t gonna just have an arrogant son-of-a-bitch bang me. He needed to be witty, charming and one hell of a soul so I could pack my knapsack and follow him to the ends of the Earth.
Okay okay so why am I bringing up a bunch of vampires who need to fucking calm down (never you, Spike)?
People with their natal Venus having dynamic aspects to Pluto (conjunctions, squares or oppositions) or Venus/Juno in Scorpio natives, know that when there is love, it runs deep. When there is passion, you better bring out the goods. When there is a connection, you’re all in.
Think of it like Pandora’s box: while it may seem exciting at first, all the toxic sheenanigans will eventually be all-consuming and combust in your face. And if there isn’t any foundation to this mayhem, be prepared for a sordid love affair that you’re gonna one day tell your grandchildren about.
And if there is foundation, good Lord buckle up. Cuz nothing, and I mean nothing, will run you down.
Fun. Indeed.
So why do Venus-Pluto, Venus/Juno in Scorpio or even Venus Retrograde transits and natives get addicted to the big bad? Simple: regularity is mediocrity. Bahahaha. OK I’m joking but I’m also not.
One of my clients is a Venus-Pluto conjunction native in fucking Scorpio. She was single all throughout her life until one day she met a Scorpio Rising Stellium – and all hell broke loose.
The 30+ years she spent single was but a vague memory and she did anything and everything that she missed out on within the 5 months she was with this man. And while it took a lot of healing to get her out of this toxic mess, no other relationship that followed could ever compare.
But many of us thrive on drama.
Our lives are lived the way we thought it should be lived. Content (albeit struggling or coping) with what there is, but still the yearning for more resides deep in the recesses of our souls. We want more, you see. We want more.
So it’s not a surprise that when we do find our temporary nirvanas, we hold on tightly, fearful of letting go. Frightened to be replaced, discarded, unwanted. Petrified to live without because we had already done this for so long, that we allow ourselves to push logic out the window and be seduced by the darkness. Completely swallowed whole by the violent rush of desire, validity and utter delirium.
Growing up, I witnessed women be the head of the household whenever the men gave up and succumbed to whatever mess they conjured. Years later, I married a man who knew nothing about being a husband, realizing I had mirrored my own childhood, regretting this harrowing miscalculation on my end just one day after my supposed perpetual bliss.
So when a man does the opposite and shows me who is boss, you have to understand: I fall on my knees.
Women like myself can get tired of being at the helm 100% of the time and want to be led once every blue moon. Women like myself secretly want to lose control. Women like myself…
2024 will change a lot of things for a majority of us with strong placements especially in the Pisces, Aries and Taurus part of our Wholesign charts. And while not everything will be all KABLAM in one go, we have to consider that everything can take place within a 1-2 year period (and in the case of the Jupiter-Uranus conjunction on April 20th, the next 14 years). That being said, the seeds have already been planted earlier on and we’re at the receiving end at the moment. We must be patient. We must let things be. The Universe is wiser than we think.
And when the good tidings come, we mustn’t throw caution into the wind, careful not to over indulge. Practical while still letting our desires be met. Lustful of the sensations, and still whole in our being.
Expect the unexpected but also don’t expect anything.
ciao sweethearts,
brit
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